The Ten Commandments of Charismatic People

In an excess economy attention is scarce. If you don’t get noticed you’re out. In order to thrive in this hyper competitive environment you need to get personal and become a magnet for people’s hearts and minds.

Sunil Bali, in his blog and his ‘article base’ has drawn together his thoughts on aspects that go together to deliver charismatic leadership ( ).

It’s often thought that in order to have a magnetic personality you have to be an extrovert or naturally charismatic. This simply isn’t true.

The key to capturing your audience’s attention is to first pay attention to them and remember that two monologues don’t make a dialogue.

Of course, we can all think of people who are naturally appealing or charismatic, but can you think of a person who cares about you, understands you and who always helps you, that you don’t like?

One of the most magnetic people I know is an introvert who cares about everyone she meets. She’s a great listener and always says something that’s interesting, valuable, or which makes you feel good. You won’t hear her complaining, telling you how great she is (and she really is very successful) or putting others down.

Here are the 10 Commandments of Charismatic people. Charismatic people,

1. Are grateful for your time and attention

2. Focus on you and not themselves

3. Ask engaging questions

4. Actively listen (for men in particular: the special situation of when it comes to your better half, apparently nodding your head and feigning interest isn’t enough! The experience of being listened to and feeling that she’s been heard is a requirement.)

5. Are helpful

6. Like to have fun

7. Are positive

8. Don’t take themselves too seriously

9. Are open to new ideas

10. Are honest

If you’ve got a great attitude towards other people, then they’ll want to hear what you have to say and spend time with you.


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